I’m so glad you are here! My name is Emily and I lost my husband to Cancer in 2019. We were both 32.
I felt so alone as a young widowed mom, and even more isolated when I started getting curious about dating just four months after he died! I felt guilty for desiring someone else and immediately started to judge myself.
I didn’t know other young widows who could normalize my feelings by telling me that they felt that way too!
After two months of criticizing myself for wanting to date, my loneliness got the best of me, so I jumped on a dating app and started swiping away! I fumbled my way through dating — not knowing how to talk about being a widow with new guys, feeling like I was broken or had so much baggage, and not really understanding who or what I was even looking for!
After three months of chasing a guy who gave me the same butterflies that my late husband Ian did, I found myself dumped via text message.
I was devasted.
In hind-site, this breakup was the BEST thing that happened to me!
It ripped the band-aid off of the real wound I was protecting by dating and it forced me to feel my grief and heal.
It shifted my focus from finding the solution to my pain outside of me — ie. a new guy — and turned my attention within.
It helped me get clear on WHY I WAS DATING, WHO I WAS and WHAT I DESIRED in my next partner.
It forced me to transform my loneliness into solitude so that I could date from a place of DESIRE instead of NEED.
This journey of self-exploration allowed me to gain clarity and confidence as I navigated the dating scene.
And now, I want to share these lessons with you!
As I got deeper into the dating scene, I would listen to podcasts on relationships & dating and think to myself — this is helpful, but this information doesn’t exactly apply. I wanted insight that was more specific and tailored to my unique needs as a widow.
Let’s face it …
Dating after the death of a partner is not the same as dating after a divorce or breakup.
We did not end our relationship by choice!
So if you’ve asked yourself …
Will my new love ever live up to my old love?
How do I date someone new without comparing them to my deceased partner?
How do I stop feeling guilty about dating?
If I’m still grieving, does it mean that I’m not ready?
How do I honor my old love and open my heart to someone new?
THIS COMMUNITY IS FOR YOU! 💖
I’ve teamed up with Relationship Coach and Therapist Michelle Mouhtis (bio below) to create Love After Loss. This 8-week course will serve as the safe & supportive space you’ve been looking for to discuss all of your questions & concerns around dating & widowhood with a community who understands.
Love After Loss kicks off on this summer and meets weekly via ZOOM on Mondays from 2pm-3:30pm MST for eight consecutive weeks. There will be one integration week, where the group takes a break to process the material and a BONUS celebration of self-love and healing to conclude the group.
Here’s a snapshot of some of the topics explored and potential shifts you’ll experience:
🖤 UNDERSTANDING READINESS
Know how to determine if you are dating from a place of loneliness, or if you are truly ready for that next, soul-level romance.
🖤 CLAIMING YOUR WIDOW STATUS
Explore how to talk about being a widow in an empowered way by owning your story, and when to share this information on a date.
🖤 GETTING CLEAR ON YOUR WHY
Dive deep into your motivation for dating and understand how intention affects the way you show up in relationship.
🖤 RELEASING GUILT
Learn how to be with and challenge guilty thoughts around dating in a way that honors your timeline and loved one.
🖤 HOLDING DUALITY
Explore how to hold space for BOTH your deceased loved one and new love.
🖤 UNDERSTANDING OF SELF
Get clear on who you are and what you desire (and more importantly what you don’t) in a future partner so you can date with clarity and confidence.
🖤 LETTING GO OF JUDGEMENTS
Understand your needs and desires around dating so that you can own your story, draw boundaries and trust in yourself.
🖤 SELF-LOVE PRACTICES
Discover that the key to finding soul-level love in a chapter two romance is first about loving yourself!
I know firsthand how much a life-altering loss can shatter your sense of self-confidence.
Grief makes it difficult to trust in yourself; to eliminate the noise — all the “should’s”, expectations and judgements that come with dating as a widow; to create boundaries around people who can support you vs. prolong your suffering; and to feel assured as you navigate this foreign terrain.
Sometimes it takes someone else who has walked the path before you to help you step into a place of empowerment to help you move forward.
Michelle and I have created this distinct program just for you!
As far as I know, there is no other community or course that focuses specifically on dating & widowhood and brings in TWO COACHES to hold space and guide you!
In this 8-week container, you will gain the clarity, confidence and connection that you have been looking for! The investment to join Love After Loss is $1497. The transformation … PRICELESS.
Monthly payment options of $390/month for four months.
Your community is waiting!
This is the first time that Michelle and I are coming together to create a safe container for widowhood & dating, but here is what some of our clients have to say about working with us!
“I cannot begin to express what this group has meant to me. I truly believe it has allowed me to understand myself and my needs to the point where I can be the best for my kids. I’m confident in my journey and that’s something I’ve struggled with even outside of grief.”
– Chris L. on Emily’s Growing THRU Grief Program
“Working with Michelle was easily one of the best decisions I could have made for myself this past year…Michelle not only helped me work through so many of my dating blocks and beliefs about myself, but she made sure throughout the entire program that I felt safe and supported. She never pressured me to do something I wasn’t ready for … I feel much more capable of leaning into my desires not only in dating, but in my whole life. I know that what I am looking for in a partner is out there and I can and will find him. Michelle provided me with the tools and insights I needed to spot red flags and know who isn’t right for me, to be in tune with my desires and confidently ask for them to be met, to deal with conflict in a healthy way, and to show up differently in dating so that I exude the confidence I am looking for in a partner.”
“I gained so much support from sharing my story, hearing others stories, and learning that each story is different, but each needs to be heard (not fixed). It was a safe, supportive space where I learned to acknowledge my emotions, name them, and continue to move in/through them. I am glad I participated in this group since I felt Emily provided genuine, compassionate support with lots of amazing resources. I will forever be grateful to Emily and the members of my group for the time we shared during this challenging part of our life stories.”
– Holly H. on Emily’s Growing THRU Grief Program
Join us for 8 weeks for a deep exploration around dating, widowhood and SELF with the safety & support of a community who understands.
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Sending love and light always!